[WIP] Upgrade SWE-Bench to use official image and latest harness

[xingyaoww]

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YOLO run

• Also a tons of SWE-Bench instruction changes and sys message changes

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To run this PR locally, use the following command:

docker run -it --rm   -p 3000:3000   -v /var/run/docker.sock:/var/run/docker.sock   --add-host host.docker.internal:host-gateway   -e SANDBOX_RUNTIME_CONTAINER_IMAGE=docker.all-hands.dev/all-hands-ai/runtime:d36b84a-nikolaik   --name openhands-app-d36b84a   docker.all-hands.dev/all-hands-ai/openhands:d36b84a