draft: add --rpc.evm-memory-limit flag

[wojtek0x]

This implements #19107. It's a draft based on unmerged changes in remv - bluealloy/revm#3125

Example usage:

reth node --rpc.gascap 18446744073709551615 --rpc.evm-memory-limit 10000000 --full --datadir /mnt/data/reth --authrpc.addr 127.0.0.1 --authrpc.port 8551 --http --http.addr 0.0.0.0 --http.port 8545 --http.api debug,eth,net,trace,txpool,web3,rpc,admin --chain mainnet --metrics 0.0.0.0:9001 --ws --ws.addr 0.0.0.0 --ws.port 3334 --ws.api debug,eth,net,trace,txpool,web3,rpc

curl http://127.0.0.1:8545/  -H 'Content-Type: application/json' -d '{
  "jsonrpc": "2.0",
  "id": 1,
  "method": "eth_call",
  "params": [
    {
      "from": "0x0000000000000000000000000000000000000001",
      "data": "0x600063009fffe05200",
      "value": "0x0"
    },
    "latest"
  ]
}'
{"jsonrpc":"2.0","id":1,"error":{"code":-32003,"message":"out of memory: memory limit exceeded during memory expansion"}}

[mattsse]

awesome, clean, this lgtm

can merge after next revm bump